Comments on: Custody Goes To The Dogs http://dogblog.dogster.com/2008/09/24/custody-goes-to-the-dogs/ The Dogster Community Dog Blog Mon, 23 Nov 2009 14:46:07 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Breaking Up Is Hard To Do » Dogster for the Love of Dog Blog http://dogblog.dogster.com/2008/09/24/custody-goes-to-the-dogs/comment-page-1/#comment-530461 Breaking Up Is Hard To Do » Dogster for the Love of Dog Blog Tue, 14 Oct 2008 13:35:50 +0000 http://dogblog.dogster.com/?p=6767#comment-530461 [...] September I posted  Custody Is Going To The Dogs,   discussing the attachment we have to our dog, something not easily broken up even when the [...] [...] September I posted  Custody Is Going To The Dogs,   discussing the attachment we have to our dog, something not easily broken up even when the [...]

]]> By: Barbara Duke http://dogblog.dogster.com/2008/09/24/custody-goes-to-the-dogs/comment-page-1/#comment-504394 Barbara Duke Wed, 24 Sep 2008 18:03:20 +0000 http://dogblog.dogster.com/?p=6767#comment-504394 It is happening slowly, but a lot of states are starting to view companion animals as family. I have learned this by being a Domestic Violence victim. A lot of state are starting to pass laws to include pets in Orders of Protection. And the American Humane Society is leading the way to having Safe Houses/Shelters set up to accomodate family pets when a victim is forced to flee. Surveys have been done to prove a lot of victims of violence remain in relationships and homes because they do not want to leave their pets. It also shows that the abuser uses the pet as a weapon just like they do thwe children, by threating to kill the pet if the victim leaves. I am a victim of DV and I met another victim who's pets were beaten and one even shot by the husband. Thank God they all survived. The AHS shelters are called PAWS, Pets and Women Shelter. So why not make it law that in the event a relationship breaks up or a marriage due to inreconcible differences and a pet is there review the closeness of the pet with the animal parents and decide which would be the better animal parent. Companion animals such as dogs and cats are basically the same as children. They are no longer viewed as just an animal. The laws are slow coming about but since Katrina, Rita and now Ike, and the devistation the animals suffered is making people more aware of the bond of a pet. God put them here for our pleasure. They love unconditionally and will never leave us humans alone incase of a crisis as we do them. I have three dogs. A foster I adopted, and two rescues I took in and made mine. They are my family. I have no children, no parents left. No really close family. My only sibling chooses to not be a part of my life because she cannot make me what she tniks I should be. So my dogs are the ones I cry to when I'm hurt. They are the ones who loves on me when I need loving. They are glad to see me when I get home from and sad when I have to go to work. They are what I wake up for everyday. They are what I strive for want to make a better life for. No matter what they are there for me. No man will come before my dogs. And I do all I can to make people aware that these loving creatures are as loving if not more than any human and they deserve to be loved and cared for and not used or abused. So yes, Washington DC needs to make laws to protect and make sure if a break up of a relationship happens, the family pet needs to be treated as a child would be. They hurt just like we do. They have a heart of gold, we don't. It is happening slowly, but a lot of states are starting to view companion animals as family. I have learned this by being a Domestic Violence victim. A lot of state are starting to pass laws to include pets in Orders of Protection. And the American Humane Society is leading the way to having Safe Houses/Shelters set up to accomodate family pets when a victim is forced to flee. Surveys have been done to prove a lot of victims of violence remain in relationships and homes because they do not want to leave their pets. It also shows that the abuser uses the pet as a weapon just like they do thwe children, by threating to kill the pet if the victim leaves. I am a victim of DV and I met another victim who’s pets were beaten and one even shot by the husband. Thank God they all survived. The AHS shelters are called PAWS, Pets and Women Shelter. So why not make it law that in the event a relationship breaks up or a marriage due to inreconcible differences and a pet is there review the closeness of the pet with the animal parents and decide which would be the better animal parent. Companion animals such as dogs and cats are basically the same as children. They are no longer viewed as just an animal. The laws are slow coming about but since Katrina, Rita and now Ike, and the devistation the animals suffered is making people more aware of the bond of a pet. God put them here for our pleasure. They love unconditionally and will never leave us humans alone incase of a crisis as we do them. I have three dogs. A foster I adopted, and two rescues I took in and made mine. They are my family. I have no children, no parents left. No really close family. My only sibling chooses to not be a part of my life because she cannot make me what she tniks I should be. So my dogs are the ones I cry to when I’m hurt. They are the ones who loves on me when I need loving. They are glad to see me when I get home from and sad when I have to go to work. They are what I wake up for everyday. They are what I strive for want to make a better life for. No matter what they are there for me. No man will come before my dogs. And I do all I can to make people aware that these loving creatures are as loving if not more than any human and they deserve to be loved and cared for and not used or abused. So yes, Washington DC needs to make laws to protect and make sure if a break up of a relationship happens, the family pet needs to be treated as a child would be. They hurt just like we do. They have a heart of gold, we don’t.

]]> By: Michelle and Bear http://dogblog.dogster.com/2008/09/24/custody-goes-to-the-dogs/comment-page-1/#comment-504388 Michelle and Bear Wed, 24 Sep 2008 17:59:56 +0000 http://dogblog.dogster.com/?p=6767#comment-504388 I could never give up my "baby." Bear is the only child I will ever have. My husband has had his family (two grown sons) and he is fixed. So no children for me so on my birthday in 2001 he brought me home Bear. Bear is my spoiled only child and I love him like a child. I would hope that every state will pass laws that allow joint custody. I know if my husband and I were to seperate we would both be devistated if we couldn't see our "baby" Bear. I could never give up my “baby.” Bear is the only child I will ever have. My husband has had his family (two grown sons) and he is fixed. So no children for me so on my birthday in 2001 he brought me home Bear. Bear is my spoiled only child and I love him like a child. I would hope that every state will pass laws that allow joint custody. I know if my husband and I were to seperate we would both be devistated if we couldn’t see our “baby” Bear.

]]> By: Sad Mom http://dogblog.dogster.com/2008/09/24/custody-goes-to-the-dogs/comment-page-1/#comment-504387 Sad Mom Wed, 24 Sep 2008 17:59:19 +0000 http://dogblog.dogster.com/?p=6767#comment-504387 I had to give up my two rat terriers in a divorce because I left a cheating husband and had nowhere to go. I lived in my vehicle for two weeks and knew that it was no life for my pups. After I found a place, my ex was not willing to give up either of the dogs. I was heart broken and if there would have been a chance I could have gotten at least joint custody I would have gone for it. Unfortunately at that time in our town (in the South...) animals were not even seen as valuable as a chair or a table, so the case would not have even been heard. I think it is something that needs to be addressed in the legal system. Times and perceptions have changed and there will only be more of this problem. I had to give up my two rat terriers in a divorce because I left a cheating husband and had nowhere to go. I lived in my vehicle for two weeks and knew that it was no life for my pups. After I found a place, my ex was not willing to give up either of the dogs. I was heart broken and if there would have been a chance I could have gotten at least joint custody I would have gone for it. Unfortunately at that time in our town (in the South…) animals were not even seen as valuable as a chair or a table, so the case would not have even been heard.

I think it is something that needs to be addressed in the legal system. Times and perceptions have changed and there will only be more of this problem.

]]> By: Indy' Mom http://dogblog.dogster.com/2008/09/24/custody-goes-to-the-dogs/comment-page-1/#comment-504384 Indy' Mom Wed, 24 Sep 2008 17:58:20 +0000 http://dogblog.dogster.com/?p=6767#comment-504384 When my ex and I broke up he let me have the dog. Then six months without even a hello he comes back wanting to have partial custody of the dog. Since I paid for the pup I won the arguement. Originally I would have been perfectly okay with sharing custody but it was obvious after six months of no communication he didn't really care about the dog. If he would have attempted to keep in touch with Indy or come and see him he could still have him now. When my ex and I broke up he let me have the dog. Then six months without even a hello he comes back wanting to have partial custody of the dog. Since I paid for the pup I won the arguement. Originally I would have been perfectly okay with sharing custody but it was obvious after six months of no communication he didn’t really care about the dog. If he would have attempted to keep in touch with Indy or come and see him he could still have him now.

]]> By: Agnes' Dad http://dogblog.dogster.com/2008/09/24/custody-goes-to-the-dogs/comment-page-1/#comment-504266 Agnes' Dad Wed, 24 Sep 2008 16:20:06 +0000 http://dogblog.dogster.com/?p=6767#comment-504266 That is really sad. Luckily for me, when I divorced we were originally going to share custody of our 2 Rat Terriers. But, Agnes was just too attached to me and was not eating, and waited by the back door for me to come home when at my ex-wife's. We decided to split the 2 up, a choice we had tried to avoid, but they are both completely happy now. I miss Otto as my ex misses Agnes, but both dogs are happier this way and that is what is important. That is really sad. Luckily for me, when I divorced we were originally going to share custody of our 2 Rat Terriers. But, Agnes was just too attached to me and was not eating, and waited by the back door for me to come home when at my ex-wife’s. We decided to split the 2 up, a choice we had tried to avoid, but they are both completely happy now. I miss Otto as my ex misses Agnes, but both dogs are happier this way and that is what is important.

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